On Friendship


Toomz asked me to talk about my ideal friendship. Thinking about my friends over the years, I realize that in the past, I always looked for close relationships, where I would just have one very close friend that I shared all my secrets with and spent all my time with. I never looked to make more friends, and I used to avoid the social scene. Maybe it’s the Cancer in me?

Then, as time went by, and as I encountered several bad friendship experiences, I began to let go of this “BFF” concept. I started looking for more shallow and distant friendships, where you would just hang out with several people, have a good time and that was it. Trust became an issue. In some ways I feel that has hurt many potentially good friendships because I used to back off when people would ask me questions that I would see personal. Sometimes I would even steer people in the wrong direction and give them an impression of me that really isn’t “me”. I guess that was my way of protecting myself.

 Today, it’s a mix of both. I do have those close friends whom I have learned to trust and pour my heart out to, and I also have the friends whom I only socialize with. I love them all!

 I still haven’t answered the question though. What’s my idea of an ideal friendship? An ideal friend (in my opinion), is one who tries to be there whenever you need them, and if they were unable to, they would explain why they weren’t, just to make sure you know that they tried. Someone who doesn’t push you into answering questions that you don’t wanna answer…they would wait for you to open up on your own. Someone who just has a good time with you no matter what you’re doing…being shopping and partying all day, or just moping aroung on the couch. Someone who doesn’t talk behind your back.

The list goes on….but sadly, I’m at work and I got heaps to finish! In summary…somebody who is PERFECT ;p


11 Responses

  1. Someone who’s perfect eh? You don’t ask for much ;P I expect you to finish this later, young woman!

  2. Inshalla 3ammity :p

  3. You haven’t completed it yet 😛

  4. we’re all waiting!

  5. ok ok i’ll complete it ….soon :p

  6. Good friends those who will never let you down! and who always be there for you when ever you need them. Unfortunatily sometimes we discover our good friends when they’ve already gone!.

  7. Technogal: Welcome to my blog. That is true…feel free to share experiences!

  8. I wish this was heaven so i could tell you perfect ppl exist :s but it aint! But you know, sometimes its the imperfection that causes the attraction of souls..sounds stupid but itz true.
    A true friend would stay with you till the end.
    (P.S congrats on the blog ;*)

  9. HeartKracker: Thanx sweety :** I agree with u about friends sticking with you til the end. I used to have an old blog but I wanted to start afresh 😉 So glad ur reading :**

  10. friendship can’t define,,it can only redefine n explain…… so beleive in friendship n ur friends, if u take time to think about choosing the best friend among….den u have’nt time to love that relation…..so firstly make ur soul to ur best friend den………..welcome in the world of friendship……….

  11. that’s Shivendra, wise advice 🙂 I have changed a lot since I wrote this post, so reading it makes me laugh 🙂

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